Comments on: The Eroding (Ok, Eroded) Masculinity of the American Male

By: Michael

Michael — Mon, 31 Jan 2011 06:59:10 +0000

The factors that showed us what ‘manhood’ was have gone leaving us with few male models.
Dad used to work on the car, the house,anything that needed fixing, He tended to be a WORKER in the physical sense, He built the roads, homes, televisions, bridges, EVERYTHING while mom provided the infrastructure: essentially everything necessarily to keep dad and the kids functioning.
Now there’s little work left that a woman can’t and isn’t doing, the auto parts house is managed by a gal tho she doesn’t know what a distributor is other than it is on a shelf back there under #12345. Even the ditch diggers have air conditioned cabs and power everything.
Dad is frequently either gone or supporting our invasions in the military leaving Mom to raise the kids. She knows what a girl has to do to get along: look sexy, hook a guy and then maybe get himto support her through school so she has her own money with a better job
When it comes to raising the boys, she doesn’t know– never been one so she raises them like the girls. No suprise that the boy doesn’t know what it is to be a man– he doesn’t have a model other than on TV!
Remember Desi Arnez? was he the first TV male fool with lucile Ball?

By: art stone

art stone — Wed, 22 Sep 2010 20:00:43 +0000

Looking forward to reading this book as “men’s issues” and the image of the American male is one of great interest to me. I am fascinated and not a little peeved at the image of the American male as it is portrayed in media and especially in advertising. I think that the image follows the excessive emasculation of males by a society/culture that is becoming more and more dominated by female values and feminine power. The question always, with a well stated arguement, is how does the ordinary “guy out there” hear about it, let alone see it or put new practices into his life safely.

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By: Claude Edwin Theriault

Claude Edwin Theriault — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 13:17:33 +0000

I enjoyed the article a lot, very well researched.

By: John Lee

John Lee — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 13:34:23 +0000

Mr. Manley’s article is well-written, thought-provoking and right on target except for a pretty big gaff labeling the book he is reviewing. Mr. Cross’s book as a “novel.” By going to Amazon I see that it is a scholarly or academic analysis of what I called “Flying Boys” nearly 25 years ago and what Robert Bly called “Soft Males” over two decades ago and what author Dan Kiley called “The Peter Pan Syndrome” nearly three decades ago.
The perpetual state of emotional regression that so many men are experiencing needs to be addressed and I, thanks to the Mr. Manley’s review look forward to reading Mr. Cross’s new work with the hope that he provides some solutions to this increasingly disturbing problem. John Lee

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By: Ahsan Sayed

Ahsan Sayed — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 20:47:58 +0000

What makes an ideal man? Boys from the tenderest of ages ask that question all the time. I can still recall the days I spent watching my father shave. I sat nearby while he wet his face, spread shaving cream across his face with his brown badger-hair shaving brush. My mornings would be spent by his side. I would devour every gesture and hand movement my dad made. From the way he stretched his skin and tilted his head, to the way he looked into the mirror.

I was lucky enough to have a genuine father-son relationship unadulterated by pop culture. However, boys who are coming of age today, aren’t so lucky. The identity I have as a man took years of observing, learning and imitating my role models to form.

My role models are certainly not people like Adam Sandler or other Hollywood stars. I chose my rolemodels not based on how “cool,” funny or laid-back they were. My role models are men I want to be: men who command respect as dutiful fathers and husbands, but at the same time are capable of love and tenderness.

By: Michael Rovito

Michael Rovito — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 14:19:43 +0000

Great job with this piece. My research parallels your essay….I’m looking at roles of paternalism and machismo as barriers to health care among Latinos.

-M